Do you need to change in 2020?
Often at the start of a new year, we think new year, new me –
We catch ourselves thinking that we need to do better, we need to have a better year than the year before.
All we are succeeding by doing that is beating ourselves up.
It is so easy to miss what was good about you and good about your year.
We live in a world, where false is all around us.
Whether that is from social media or the real world. Everyone is trying to tell you that they’re GREAT.
But are they?
Well no, not really…
And the statistics support this.
Those are just 2 examples of why a lot of people feel negative about themselves and their situation. Which is why so many people feel that they need to change.
A lot of people also feel like they never hear other people talk positively about then. Whether that is their friends or their families.
Here’s the thing though, many people think a lot about you but might have a lot of trouble telling you so.
So before you start chasing after a brand new you, here are some steps to follow:
Take a bit of paper (or open a word doc) and answer the above.
Reflection is important and especially actually writing stuff physically down, because keeping stuff in your head can make it all jumbled.
Once you begin to write stuff down, you might realise that you are already doing some of the stuff that you want to.
You will at least be able to see that some of the building blocks are already there.
Once you have done this little exercise, you will have a much clearer idea of where you actually are AND also where you want to go.
So ask yourself:
- What went right?
Stuff will always go wrong, but last year, what went right?
2. What did you enjoy?
What things did you do/experience that you need to do more of in 2020?
3. What Did Change?
It is so easy to think that everything always stays the same. Week in, week out, year in and year out.
So ask yourself, what negative did you change in 2019?
How did you do it?
Could you follow the same process with something else in your life?
4. What did you do well?
What did you do well in 2019, and how can you keep doing it in 2020?
After you’ve completed this list, there might be things where you think that you need to change –
It is about being realistic and positive about yourself for the start of the year!
Panic attacks are no joke, if you suffer a severe attack, they can feel like having a heart attack, with symptoms including:
- Shortness of breath
It can feel like you are going to die (not our words) and although they are not dangerous (physically), no one wants to feel like the symptoms above.
So what can you do if you’re suffering severe attacks?
Keep Physical Contact With Something
If you are experiencing a severe attack, everything can seem very far away and this can only increase your levels of anxiety.
Physical contact with objects or another person, can help you feel grounded and bring you back to a neutral.
Change Your Point of Focus
Changing your focus away from the symptoms of an attack can be one of the best ways to deal with an attack.
How do you do that?
One of the best ways is to do something mechanical and methodical like a puzzle or playing a game.
Recently, we tried Tetris 99 for this specific reason and we have to say it worked a treat. Focusing on where to place the blocks and feeling the process of pressing the buttons really helped shifted the focus away from the attack symptoms and brought the suffer back to neutral.
What you should try to avoid though is taking yourself completely out of the place where the attack is occurring. This is because whatever underlying factors that caused the attack might be tied to that place, so you don’t want to avoid being in that place if you can help it.
Again with most attacks, the overwhelming mental feeling is isolation and the thought that you are so very far away. It can be tempting to keep quiet and just ride out the symptoms, but what can sometimes help is to be vocal and connect to world.
For more information and advice – see – https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/coping-with-panic-attacks/
One of the biggest challenges today is staying mentally well.
There so many challenges to staying mentally well these days. Life is complicated by the advent of social media and being bombarded by ‘perfect’ images.
Gone are the days, where people use to spew immortal lines like, “just pull yourself together!”
So how do you stay mentally well?
Talk To People About You Seem
It can be hard to notice changes in yourself. If you begin going out less or less talkative, it can be hard to be self aware of that; but people who know you well pick up on those kind of things.
Talking to someone who knows you well, can be vital to noticing if your letting negative trends creep into your every day.
Being Over-Productive Is Harmful To Staying Mentally Well
Work is the new religion and many of us measure our self-worth by our work.
Being over-productive is bad for you. If you want to stay mentally well, then it is vital to rest.
If you’re beginning to feel exhausted, then it might be time to ask yourself, “Do I need to give myself a break?”
Sometimes, it is just better to have nap.
Thoughts that stay in your head can turn into the strangest of things. Sometimes, by writing things down and taking them out of your own head, can help you make sense of what you think and feel.
Making To Do Lists each day is a really good way to set yourself, small manageable targets that will make you able to see what you’re actually able to do in day.
Try it – you will be surprised.
Looking after your mental health as student can be the key to get the most out of your uni experience.
Unfortunately in the UK, traditional MH support services are spread thin and this means that looking after your mental health comes down to you.
So here are some things that you can do to support your own mental health.
Get Into A Routine
Getting into a routine can sounded like obvious advice but it also can be difficult to do. Particularly if you decide to live away from home. Your lectures and seminars might account for as little as 10 hours a week, so what are you going do the rest of the time?
It can be easy to fall into the trap of doing nothing, which is no good for your mental health.
You want to make sure that you try and have a routine of doing things outside of going to lectures. Joining clubs or other organised activities can help shape your life and give you some rhythm.
If you have a physical or sensory impairment, finding activities that are accessible can be tricky so this is another good reason to join clubs or societies. University based initiatives have a responsibility to be inclusive so they will try and meet your additional needs.
By building up routine of things that you usually do, it will make sure that you always have something to look forward to, even on a down day.
Talk To Your Tutors
There can be a lot reasons to miss lectures, particularly if you are a disabled student, and missing lectures can impact negatively on mental health.
You can begin to think, “I’ve missed that lecture so I should miss the seminar as well.”
“I missed all last week and I’ll never catch up.”
Despite all your best intentions, life can and will get in the way of your studies. However, all universities will have support services on offer, including student support officers, drop-in sessions and union workers.
Also your tutors will be available for the occasion one-one if you need to catch up.
Don’t let missing lectures or seminars put you in a negative frame of mind.
For more help and support see:
You’ve over-indulged during Xmas and the new year. You sat there on the stroke of midnight and promised yourself that this was the year that you were going to get fit!
But getting fit with physical disability can seem like a daunting prospect . You don’t want to do anything that might aggravate your condition or cause you to unknowingly injury yourself.
Your probably asking yourself these questions:
- Where do I go?
- What do I do?
- How often should I do something?
The first thing that I will say is: IF YOU HAVE A LONG TERM CONDITION, ALWAYS SEEK GUIDANCE BEFORE UNDERTAKING ANY PHYSICAL ACTIVITY.
Right now the disclaimer is out of the way, lets get on with the meet of this blog.
Getting Fit With A Physical Disability Whilst Having Fun
Getting fit with a physical disability should not be daunting and can be a lot of fun. It can be a chance to make new friends and try thins that you never thought were possible. Here I will run down quick list of some organisations that can provide you with some new and exciting opportunities:
CP Sport England and Wales – Their motto is ‘Play. Participate. Enjoy.’, and I can tell you from personal experience that is exactly what you’ll get. They welcome people of all ages and abilities, and you don’t need to have Cerebral Palsy to participate either! They offer football, athletics and swimming as options for getting fit with a physical disability. They operate more in the midlands and the north,
WheelPower – WheelPower are an organisation based in the legendary Stoke Mandeville and offer many of the same opportunities as CP Sport but just based more in the south.
Smile Through Sport – STS is a new organisation created by the living legend Stephen Miller Mbe to create more opportunities for people to get fit and have fun in the Northeast.
Wheelchair Rugby – Getting fit with a physical disability does not always have to be safe. Wheelchair Rugby is the option for those of us who like life a little rougher.
What If I Don’t Want To Play Sport
Getting fit with a physical disability does not have to be all about getting involved in sport. Equipment like hand cycles can transform your wheelchair and get you going places that you never thought possible! Read our guide to buying hand cycles here.
Upgrade Your Wheelchair
Maybe the key to getting fit for you is a new wheelchair? The right wheelchair can open up the world for you. Check out our guide to buying a wheelchair here.
What About In The Gym
That’s my good friend Rob Smith in the gym using Active Hands. Active Hands’ gripping aids are a great way to make the most annoying gym equipment accessible!
Over the next few weeks, I’ll be blogging from the gym about how to achieve your fitness goals, whatever your disability is!