Do you need to change in 2020?
Often at the start of a new year, we think new year, new me –
We catch ourselves thinking that we need to do better, we need to have a better year than the year before.
But…
All we are succeeding by doing that is beating ourselves up.
It is so easy to miss what was good about you and good about your year.
We live in a world, where false is all around us.
Whether that is from social media or the real world. Everyone is trying to tell you that they’re GREAT.
But are they?
Well no, not really…
And the statistics support this.
Those are just 2 examples of why a lot of people feel negative about themselves and their situation. Which is why so many people feel that they need to change.
A lot of people also feel like they never hear other people talk positively about then. Whether that is their friends or their families.
Here’s the thing though, many people think a lot about you but might have a lot of trouble telling you so.
So before you start chasing after a brand new you, here are some steps to follow:
Take a bit of paper (or open a word doc) and answer the above.
Reflection is important and especially actually writing stuff physically down, because keeping stuff in your head can make it all jumbled.
Once you begin to write stuff down, you might realise that you are already doing some of the stuff that you want to.
Or
You will at least be able to see that some of the building blocks are already there.
Once you have done this little exercise, you will have a much clearer idea of where you actually are AND also where you want to go.
So ask yourself:
- What went right?
Stuff will always go wrong, but last year, what went right?
2. What did you enjoy?
What things did you do/experience that you need to do more of in 2020?
3. What Did Change?
It is so easy to think that everything always stays the same. Week in, week out, year in and year out.
So ask yourself, what negative did you change in 2019?
How did you do it?
Could you follow the same process with something else in your life?
4. What did you do well?
What did you do well in 2019, and how can you keep doing it in 2020?
After you’ve completed this list, there might be things where you think that you need to change –
But
It is about being realistic and positive about yourself for the start of the year!
