Parenting

Why Impairment Identity Is Important To Explain To Your Disabled Child

Impairment identity can be a big help to you and your disabled child.

What makes us say that?

Well, one of the big things about growing up with a disability is that your disabled child can feel like the only person in the world going through their experiences.

What Is Impairment Identity?

This is why trying to talk to your child about the specifics of their condition, finding them role models and highlighting consistent things about their condition is important.

The Challenge

The challenge is with promoting impairment identity is that as parent, you are constantly trying to attach more and more unique labels to your child.

This is because, the more unique labels that your child has, the more support that you can potentially unlock.

So, the more labels that you acquire, the more that your child can feel that their circumstances are unique.

Conditions such as Cerebral Palsy are notoriously tricky here. This is because umbrella conditions such as CP have so much variety in them.

As a parent, it can be tricky for you to see similarities between your child and others, never mind them!

Children With The Same Condition Still Develop At Different Rates

This is why it is important for you as a parent to remember that disabled children still develop at different rates.

So..

Even if it appears that your child cannot do something that another child with the same condition can, does not mean that they never will.

Exposer To Impairment Groups Can Aid The Learning Process

It can be the case that exposer to the children with the same condition can aid this learning process.

The difficulty for you as a parent can often be that your child notices these differences and this can lead to negative feelings.

This is where you as the parent have to challenge your child conception of what is going on.

It is not that they cannot do it, it is just that they haven’t learnt how yet.

Try And Find A Range of Ages

Fears about the different stages of life can be common for disabled kids and their parents.

You can always find yourself asking questions like, “what are they going to be like when their older?”

Or

“How are they going to do this?”

From the child’s perspective, they can even begin questioning whether they want to grow up at all.

Or

They begin to feel left behind as other children get older and more energetic.

This is why finding people who share the same impairment identity across the age spectrum can be so important.

Seeing people living with the same condition across the age spectrum can help both you and your child feel more positive.

Where Do You Find Impairment Identity Groups?

This the trick, isn’t it?

Where do you find people who share the same condition as your child?

Well, there are number of places to look:

Social Media

Here are some ideas about people to follow:

Sophie Morgan – Sophie is a presenter for C4 and her social media tracks her everywhere. https://twitter.com/sophmorgTV

Mik Scarlet –
Broadcaster, Journalist, Actor, Musician, Access/Inclusion Expert & Wheelchair User. https://twitter.com/MikScarlet

Dr Frances Ryan – Guardian columnist. Highly Com’d Specialist Journalist of the Year. https://twitter.com/DrFrancesRyan

Emma Steer – Emma is an award winning blogger and Youtuber. https://twitter.com/WheelsofSteer

Aaron Fotheringham – Aaron is an extreme wheelchair skater who has taken part in Nitro Circus. https://www.facebook.com/AaronWheelz/

Organisations To Look At

CP Teens UK – “CP Teens UK is a supportive & accepting community for young people with Cerebral Palsyhttps://www.cpteensuk.org/

SNAPS Yorkshire – SNAPS (Special Needs And Parent Support) provides leisure support services for children with special needs of all kinds, and their families. Our aim is to support the entire family, by enabling the child, along with siblings, parents and other carers to participate in a shared experience of physical activity, fun and conversation in relaxed surroundings, supported by professional and dedicated staff. Our age range is from 1 to 16, although most of our children are aged between 2 and 10. https://www.snapsyorkshire.org/about/

Dice Yorkshire – We are a non-for-profit social enterprise based in Yorkshire that provides activities, events and services for people with a disability, predominantly adults aged 18 and above. https://www.diceenterprise.com/who-are-we

CP Sport – Cerebral Palsy Sport is the country’s leading national disability sport organisation supporting people with cerebral palsy and other physical disabilities to reach their sporting potential and putting people with cerebral palsy and their families at the heart of everything we do. http://www.cpsport.org/about-us/our-organisation/our-strategy/

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